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3 days ago
Eric K
Unfortunately Tennessee has lead the way for Kentucky. We have the "In God we Trust" placard to be prominently hung as a requirement in the schools and the phrase is now on the licence plate.
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8 days ago
Eric K
Over the years I have gotten letters stating that the Book of Mormon occurred: 1.) In Africa. 2.) In SE Asia 3.) In the middle of the US (heartland model) The only place the BofM events occurred in was in a very limited imagination.
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9 days ago
Eric K
A vocalist, who occasionally sings with my band, had a neighbor who built a bunker to survive the year 2000. She told me that her neighbor and his wife emerged about 2 weeks after the world did not end. I wanted to interview these survivalists, but she mentioned it was probably not a good idea. The end of the world is always at hand.
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10 days ago
Eric K
If I understand it correctly, at least how I have always understood crocodile tears is: crocodiles are cold blooded killers and their tears mean nothing other than perhaps some indigestion.
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12 days ago
Eric K
"They can't afford to be on this stupid mission. They sold their home before they left. They're living on their home equity!" That is a depressing statement. The corporation drives people to near poverty by taking a large portion of a lifetime of savings and expecting them to work too. The corporation is not going to help them get another home. It simply does not care. I feel sor
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12 days ago
Eric K
She has had so much going on in her life that she needed to step away from being online for awhile. I have corresponded with her. I miss her thoughtful and insightful posts. She is a treasure here.
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24 days ago
Eric K
There was a well written article entitled, 'No one wants grandmas brown furniture'. It certainly is true. We cleaned out my mothers house in Florida 2 years ago. It was an ordeal. We had 2 charities come pick up the furniture and they rejected half of it. Those pieces were not desirable. I got a pickup truck for several days and became quite acquainted with the local landfill. It made me t
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27 days ago
Eric K
This will hopefully be fixed tomorrow
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27 days ago
Eric K
The Watchtower (JW's) are nearly identical with their naming. They have the Governing Body. ( top guys) Each congregation has a body of elders etc. https://jwsurvey.org/news/governing-body-of-jehovahs-witnesses-named-as-defendants-in-child-abuse-lawsuits In the above link is a picture that should look familiar. JW leaders. There is one person of color.
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28 days ago
Eric K
From: https://cosmosmagazine.com/society/the-free-market-at-work-thoughts-and-prayers-hit-7-17-each "Faced with the phrase – delivered with po-faced sincerity by US senators and presidents alike every time there is a mass shooting or a natural disaster – it is reasonable for people offered the “thoughts and prayers” of strangers to wonder what exactly such a gift is worth in, you
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29 days ago
Eric K
Serving a mission as an introvert was the most significant catalyst in creating this site. Being an introvert and convert "serving" as a missionary was for me an extremely painful experience. The worst mistake of my life.
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29 days ago
Eric K
We, as a family, lost interest in football. We used to watch the Packers, but gave up on that due to the brutal nature of the sport and the incessant commercials. Soccer is the sport we watch now and follow a few teams. The game is less than 2 hours - not 3.5 hours and there is continuous action. Yes, there is some injury and I wonder about the head shots taken at full velocity. That cannot
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4 weeks ago
Eric K
My mistake in misspelling his name.
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5 weeks ago
Eric K
This is from: https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2019/09/09/jerry-falwell-liberty-university-loans-227914 "“We’re not a school; we’re a real estate hedge fund,” said a senior university official with inside knowledge of Liberty’s finances. “We’re not educating; we’re buying real estate every year and taking students’ money to do it.” ...Falwell presides over a
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5 weeks ago
Eric K
To be thanked for paying tithing? Never. The last time I paid still irritates me when I recall the event. It was December. My wife did not want me to pay. I should of listened. The bishop berated me for waiting until the end of the year instead of paying monthly. He raised his voice and said I was robbing god. I regret not grabbing the check out of his hand and tearing it up as he was ch
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5 weeks ago
Eric K
She has declined rapidly - surprisingly so. The Dr recommended hospice. The existing facility will not accept her back in her current condition. I panicked for awhile Friday afternoon when told she could not go back and I had nowhere to take her. The hospital extended discharge by one day and I have a group working on finding an opening somewhere. It is very stressful. There needs to be a b
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5 weeks ago
Eric K
The site continues its popularity despite lack of upgrades this past year. Successful requests per day: Tue 139094 Wed 112335 Thu 150220 Fri 188414 It is not far from our usual height back a few years ago. The exodus from Mormonism is clearly increasing when considering all the other sites are out there. On a personal note - I have to put my mother into hospice care. Fini
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6 weeks ago
Eric K
I live in TN and I can concur that there are plenty of crazies here. A few years back in a letter to the editor, a woman wrote that atheists should not be allowed to live in our community. Sigh... I see many wearing t-shirts or jackets, which have to be expensive, touting the Creation Museum in Kentucky. The admission is $30 per person. That is the place with the supposed recreation of the
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7 weeks ago
Eric K
Even after being out nearly 25 years, I still hate the word "worthy". It is such an offensive word to me. It was used extensively here in the Mormon church in the Bible belt. We heard it almost weekly. It seemed to serve two functions: * Make one feel worthless - as a result, to feel the need of church to be worthy, even though the church made one feel even more worthless. I
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8 weeks ago
Eric K
When I was an active Mormon, single, and sharing an apartment with another TBM, he would drink Sanka because it was decaffeinated. He also drank coke. This is hardly a serious issue, though it demonstrates the mental gymnastics Mormons perform on a regular basis. He also later became a Bishop.
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2 months ago
Eric K
Wow Heidi. I am sorry to hear of this. You are definitely high in our thoughts for stabilization and recovery.
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2 months ago
Eric K
How great! Thanks for that.
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2 months ago
Eric K
How can one calculate a percentage when the denominator is zero?
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2 months ago
Eric K
For me, it was more of a lifestyle change, which perhaps is a celebration. I took up fly fishing, starting coaching a girls soccer team that stayed together for 7 years, got back to playing the saxophone and clarinet, which I gave up when I joined the cult, etc. There was never time for those things when one is an active member. Occasionally, when playing at a gig late on a Saturday night, I
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2 months ago
Eric K
I decided to look at the stats since it has been awhile. The site had not been updated other than the activity on the bulletin boards. Requests per day Week of Aug 5th, 2019 Mon 161693 Wed 144506 Thu 145886 At our high a few years ago, we averaged around 210,000 to 220,000 per day with occasional forays of 300,000+ on a major Mormon news item. Yes activity is down, but it is sign
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2 months ago
Eric K
That is very good news!. You have been through a lot including your eyes. Hope it was a good wine...
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2 months ago
Eric K
I remember a book entitled "How to Pray and Stay Awake". It was an LDS book. I may be paraphrasing the title, but it is close.
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2 months ago
Eric K
I believe this to be a great skill most of us have acquired and/or enhanced as ex-Mormons (or ex-JWs or ex- other similar groups) - the ability see manipulation. This can apply someone trying to sell us something, a donation to a cause, relationships, join a religion etc. I feel like I am more in tune to tactics that can adversely affect me as a result of the skills I finally starting using in
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2 months ago
Eric K
This is always interesting. I keep waiting for fundamentalists who believe in 6000 year old earth to rationalize this.
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2 months ago
Eric K
I have not archived in along time. This is a perfect example of how rules based instead of compassion based this organization is structured. The fact that she still wants to attend demonstrates the intensity of the indoctrination.
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