Punky I remember you from my early days on this board starting in 2005. So sorry to hear of the continuing issues you have had. Although my TBM parents have chilled over the last 17-18 years, I still have the TBM MIL to contend with. Sending good vibes your way.
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Mike was in our ward when I lived in Lexington KY in 97-99. He was their offensive coordinator @ UK when QB Tim Couch was popular. The recruiting coordinator (also mormon) was Claude Bassett. I spent many hours sitting in the foyer with Mike as we skipped meetings and classes to take care of our daughters. He was always entertaining. Although he was mormon he always seemed to play on the fringes.
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So very sorry to hear of his passing. It is hard to believe I've been browsing RfM since early 2005. Even though I havent met many of you IRL, hearing of certain posters deaths makes me feel like I've lost an old friend. I will NOT raise a glass in honor of your sober life! Adam
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Since leaving the LD$ church in 2006, we decided to NEVER give to a church again. We have since gotten cold on 501C's in general. Several years ago we decided we would send checks directly to those we deemed in need. My wife (an RN) has purchased several bigger ticket items for co-workers who she knows are needy. A couple years ago our four kids decided in lieu of sending Christmas gifts to each
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Great to see you on here although I rarely am anymore. I see you occasionally pop up on FB or Linkedin. Hope you are staying safe over there. Jean and I are well and enjoying retirement in FL. We may make a trip your way if travel ever opens again, Cheers!
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Been out for 15+ years and just attended my first Mormon wedding (niece's) since being out. It was in Arizona and of course it was hot as hell for those of us standing outside waiting for the grand exit from the temple. Knowing what goes on inside, and that being one of my reasons for leaving, made me chuckle as the other nevermos were thinking they were missing some elaborate ceremony. Becau
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The ONLY thing I now know is that I don't know!
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This time 15 years ago I was a lifelong 41 year old member, temple married and the father of 4 teenagers. I was also 6-8 months into a faith crisis. These were dark days for me. I really thought that if I left the church my wife of almost 20 years was going to leave me. However, within a couple of months she decided to resign her membership, along with me and our 4 kids, symbolically on our 20th
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One of my personal favorite comments I like to make is "the only thing I now know, is that I don't know". As a Mormon I remember being so sure about things and being unafraid to tell someone "I know". Today i am very hesitant to use that type of language for fear of looking and sounding stupid.
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This was one of my earlier posts on RFM when I was on_my_way_out_2. Rereading some of my posts, I realize I was quite angry with Ld$ inc. --------------------------------------------------------- Mormonism - "Killer Of Community Service" Monday, Jun 26, 2006, at 07:02 AM Original Author(s): On_my_way_out_2 Topic: SERVICE AND CHARITY -Link To MC Article- ↑ Thi
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I have been posting and lurking on RfM since early 2005. I stumbled on this post from 4 years ago. Hard to believe Deenie left us 10 years ago. My wife and I were fortunate to have met her and have dinner with her. She was as amazing ire as her posts.
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Crazy to believe it has been 14 years since I last attended a Mormon church. Our family of 6 resigned in Feb 2006 (our 20th wedding anniversary). our kids were 18, 15, 14 & 12. Been an amazing 14+ years. Last time I lurked or posted my FIL was terminally ill with Cancer. Sadly he passed in Jan 2018. My wife and I decided to take a sabbatical and travel. We spent a month in Thailand and Camb
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My wife is daughter number 3 of 8 and we along with another sister are financially able to manage the house thing. The frustration is really around the amount of money being given to the LD$ church and how little they are doing to help her parents out. Even their property taxes are reduced to virtually nothing yet they give thousands of dollars to the morg. Frustrating!
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We have been officially out almost 12 years. This year has been the year of changes for my wife and I. We have had several close friends pass away causing us to reevaluate our life and priorities. In July I decided to resign from my job due to the progression of my Ménière's disease. I have had a very successful 28 year run and we are in a good place financially which allows me to do something
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years ago. He noticed that my wife and I appear, from FB pictures and posts, to either be "inactive or not members" anymore. I'm shocked that my FB pictures don't hide my ex-mormonism better. He goes on to tell me that he has determined that JS is not a prophet and he has other issues as well and is considering leaving. He has told his wife but it sounds like she is not on the same page
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In many ways my exit was as clean and they get. I left with my marriage intact and all of our kids (ages 18, 15, 14 & 12) left together. I am fortunate. Sure we've had some challenges the past 12 years, but we are very happy and could never imagine a life in Mormonism again. Not sure of your story. I used to be very active poster in 2005 but have been a lurker the past several years. Good
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I am very sorry to hear this. I wish you peace and comfort during this tough time.
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I finally met Odell Campbell last evening. He and Stephanie spent the evening with my wife and I in OKC. We drank, we talked about our exit from Mormonism, we drank, we laughed and then we drank some more. After 10 plus years of cyber friendship, it was amazing to be able to chat face to face. He is an awesome guy and Stephanie is amazing as well. Thank you RFM for this forum that not only helped
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"The fact of the matter is this. His mom finished 3:45. They couldn't have been waiting for her to finish. She would have already finished." The "official" race clock starts when the first runners leave the start and runs continuously. It is possible to run a 3:45 race but cross the line at 4:09. Depending on her "pace" she could have crossed the starting line 20-
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Thanks Susie Q. I have always enjoyed following your posts over the years. I believe we have a mutual FB friend, Odell. Take care...
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I really think they are where they are regardless of the church influence. They are definitely happier and free to choose authentically for themselves. The rub is that they are often measured against their TBM cousins in Utah who married at 22, finished college and have 2 kids now. The truth is, most if not all of my kids would not have done that even if we were still in. It is not who they w
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I hope you are doing well.
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You are sworn to eternal silence and possible damnation before you actually know what you sign up for. Even better is that you are free to opt out at the beginning before you even know what you are signing up for.
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I am sorry to hear that things didn't pan out as well for you as planned. The early stages of leaving were so so scary. Extracting ourselves from the comfort of knowing everything to suddenly knowing nothing was tough. I worried a lot about my kids and the impact on their lives. I often wonder when they struggle if I created that for them by leaving. However, I also hear them talk about their fut
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It was on my wife's list of things to do. However, after seeing them up close and personal before during and after the ride, my wife was very disappointed. She would not recommend it or do it again. She did visit the tiger sanctuary and she did enjoy that.
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Lately I lurk more than I post however, I wanted to share the fact that we just celebrated our 10th anniversary out of the LD$ church. As some may know, I questioned things in early 2005. I shared with my wife concerns which led to several stressful months as we discussed my unbelief and whether we could remain married like that. By the fall of 2005 my wife decided our marriage meant more the
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Fortunately my Dad is smart enough, at least he has been in the past, to not go too far. Unfortunately this is just robbing them of their fun money. If I was still Mormon I could confront them and they would listen. However, now as an Exmo I have no credibility.
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My brother and I were just talking about this over the weekend about how growing up the church was very much about "community and socializing". Now, everything is rush, rush and don't spend any money. Roadshows, huge dances, Friday family movie nights with popcorn and homemade root beer, basketball tournaments, baseball/softball tournaments, participating in community activities. All
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