Thanks everyone :D but I don't just give out my pill information. Been a long time since I did. I don't just 'tell' them about it. A simple question of one of them asking if I'm in pain will automatically lead to the assumption I'm clinging to the pills instead of going for Bleeeesssings and Praaaying. That's what gets me most and I bite back when that stuff starts. Not many ask me anymore, bu
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I do my research with them and know the pros and cons just fine. I live with chronic pain and sleep is a trial, not an escape for more than half the time. Sometimes I need need help and turn to a sleeping pill or Sleepy Time tea, but not enough to make it too habitual. My....dear...Mormon friends that still hang about even though I left the churh just can't understand me and my pain. "Oh, ju
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...turned their backs on him when news spread he was coming home early. I was bombarded with questions and the waves of disappointment as his sister, and even though a doctor down in the he served said he HAD to go home...no one seemed to believe it besides his family. We saw first hand what the stress had done to him, and still affects him nearly three years later. Nobody contacts him anymore.
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Ah, my Seminay teacher...he was a cool dude but cared for everyone to the point it was suffocating. He was always worried about my performance in class. I hardly participated, because even as a member I was not comfortable with everything. Senior year Seminary was the very last class if the day, riiight after my Weights class. That also sucked so bad because I was so worn out. It got to the point
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I met my first boyfriend on an online game, and his friend knew a friend if mine and despite living states apart we met up a few times. I still love him but things went sour when the churh foiled us. My peers pressured me to the point if breaking down, and boyfriend became a high head after joining the church. He's on his mission now(we are not together) and I left the church, and he has no idea
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I had been doubting for some time, but the final stone to drop was the death of my smoking, drinking, irresponsible yet good loving father I hadn't seen for many years. He was never a Mormon or was with any church...but he had a love for God. I knew that the mormons I knew would be thinking, 'he's going to outer darkness'. I didn't care that he drank and smoked and gave up us kids to his wife, he
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Thanks for replying everyone, there's some pretty thoughtful stuff here =)
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“Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able? Then he is not omnipotent. Is he able, but not willing? Then he is malevolent. Is he both able and willing? Then whence cometh evil? Is he neither able nor willing? Then why call him God?” I found this on an art website I am a part of. I like it.
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I've seen this topic pop up a few times, but haven't read that anyone was successful in getting their tithing money back.
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I left the church without looking anything up. I called their crap through experience and intuition. ...bastards.
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On FB, there is this meme thing going around where you put up ten facts about yourself. A friend of mine, smart and lovely but in the thick of Mormonism, put" I'm a Christian". It was hard not to pull the rug out from under that one. Since I left the church my relationship has been 'ok' with this friend, but when it comes to debates, I'm dead in the water compared to them...big time!
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Agreed, very much so. Everyone said I was so good and heartfelt at prayer, that they kept nagging at me to do it more often and was trying to prim and trim me for better things. When my pain started, and the blessings didn't 'work', that attention was worked away from me. I'm grateful for it now, but back then, it was a major blow, for it left me feeling worthless and abandoned. With the g
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I can think for myself. I can wear tank tops--or whatever the hell I WANT. I don't have to hear 'you don't have enough faith' when blessings fail to heal my chronic pain. I don't have to sit on those damn pews at church, or go to church and yawn to death. I. Feel. Free. I feel like a new person. I feel like I was changing so much to fit the mold of the church, that this transformation now i
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I am so very sorry, Mia, to hear about this. It's a sad thing that this happens to so many people. That total bull about how if you do not have faith, then you are to blame. It's an abusive situation. I have some experience in this area. I have chronic pain that will be with me for the rest of my life, crippling me. When it first surfaced, they tried to bless it out off me, too. Total bull****
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Even though she was treated for various things they -thought- was wrong with her, it was hit or miss. They never discovered exactly what it was. They got lucky with the various treatments.
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This is a story that takes place over many years. I have been around to see its beginning and its end, having been one of the friends to this family. It's about time I tell it. Be warned, this is not a short thread. _______________________________________________________________ This girl was an often feisty spirit, rebellious if not hard to handle. Her temper and jealousy of her many sisters
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It's finally hit home just how messed up Mormons and Marriage can be. I've been out of high school for four years, and half of my female classmates got engaged just their first year into college. Married soon after, had kids. Some nevermo friends I had there at HS got pregnant right off the bat ( one even during hs. ). But all in all, the people I more or less had an association with either start
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I was browsing through the new books at my library today and ran across the book stated in the title. A quick browse just had my eyes rolling. The inside cover made it sound all cheery and positive. I didn't read further and shelved it. Ugh. Has anyone read it? I didn't catch the author's name, just the title.
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Thank you, Blue! I know I'm pretty lucky to have my little end of this family to be away from the church. I'm sorry you don't have the support I do! Maybe one day you will :-)
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...because I and my other sibling did last August. It's great news! I remember the poor kid was bullied into getting baptized. Even as a member back then, when little bro turned eight and everyone said he HAD to get baptized, I got protective of his rights to refuse. After a while he bowed down under the pressure (small town issue) he went through with it. He has never been a devout member, howev
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I guess I should also mention this is Oregon. There may be certain allowances.
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Is there a certain distance they have to be from the water? Is it okay to be on the beach, just watching the waves a bit away? Just wondering, since I saw a pair of them on the beach last week chilling out. I thought I had heard somewhere that even going onto a beach is not allowed. But I'm not sure. But I do know, obviously, that they couldn't get close enough to touch the water...for certainly
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When I finally got a job and was able to actually start paying tithing, I officially only gave them twenty bucks. Anytime I pulled out tithing from my checks, it would go in an envelope...and I would constantly forget to take it into the church. When my doubts got to the high point and I was traveling to see family, I had all that extra money and realized I didn't feel bad spending 'sacred' tithi
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And that was for my father's funeral. I love pants. This guy who wrote the article must have been lusting after women to write so faithfully about it.
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Along the west coast of Oregon :D
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....seriously? Just...wow. TSCC is getting more and more cheesy by the day. I'll make it a point to avoid FB for sure. I already got swamped by tscc friends after GC because they felt dedicated to save the one (me) who left the fold...oh boy.
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Oh yes, sleeping. Lots of sleep to edge away from depression and stress. And to avoid all the stupid sappy shite all the Mormons I know will be posting up. Also getting ready to chase off the missionaries, who are bound to come again soon. ...zzzzzzz...
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