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7 years ago
icanseethelight
I used to have sex in the chapel, a lot. My dad always had keys to the church so I always had someplace to go.
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
So I let my home teacher come over because I like him. He is a great, humble guy and I consider him a friend. He was the first person I went to when I decided that I counldn't do it anymore, so he knows my feelings. We BS'd for a while and then he gave his "lesson" on service, told anecdotes about how he never feels like he is doing enough, and my wife agreed, said we could always
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
After being in and out of the faith my whole life, I finally took the bag off my head (that analogy is somewhere on this site)...also refers to me seeing my wife able to leave at some point.
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
I was thinking the same thing today. For those in the Morridor it is hard to explain the fear and disdain the bible belt has of mormons. They are nice and social, and will still be your friend, but don't put one in charge, that's against Jesus, and you can't go against Jesus.
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
Yes and no. I have left more than once
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
n/t
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
This is my last post because I do not want to hijack the thread. Badgirl. You are still calling me an alcoholic. Alcoholism is a serious disease that is a chemical dependency. I drink. Huge difference.
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
six. Three to hold a presidency meeting and pray about who to call to "bulb changer", one to organize the activity where the bulb will be changed, one to make a casserole for the activity, and one to change the bulb.
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
um...no. I go for months without drinking. I have no need for it. Sometimes I enjoy the buzz but mostly it is social. But using alcohol most of my life has made it so more alcohol is needed to affect my cognitive and motor skills. It really pisses me off that people make the assumption if you use, you abuse.
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
I need to pee now. And I pee A LOT when I drink. And my tolerance is stupid high now, but I drank heavily as a child.
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
Ok, this reminds me of the time I lent a vhs tape(it was a while ago) to my dad to watch a movie I recorded. He came to me later and said to be careful what I was lending that there was porn after the movie(my dad is HARDCORE TBM). I then asked...it wasn't us(me and my wife) was it? To which he stood in stunned silence. I have not heard any preaching about porn since. Sorry ronas, I
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
I do it by focusing on a single candle, I then send everything into the candle, my emotions, my problems, my joy, so it is just a floating candle in a black void. Then I see how long I can keep anything from intruding.
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
I told her that, along with the fact that to get she was going to have to be a polygamist, and would be assigned a husband, or be given to my dad(that went over like a lead balloon) since she is not sealed to anyone but him. You would have thought I poleaxed her. She HATES my dad. It was a funny visual. Him calling her, her saying nope, she would rather be in outer darkness!! I am la
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
So I came out to many of my extended family this week. In discussing my various and sundry reasons for leaving I told them that the systemic, long term suppression of facts, and lying by the prophets was one of the reasons I am free from religion. To which my mom agreed, but said the gospel is true, the church has been taken over by luciferians who are driving people away from the church. S
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
I was raised in a passive aggresive environment, and have manipulated people most of my life using the same tactics, as has my wife. We both came to the realization that it was killing our relationship. Once we both started calling each other out when we were using it, it improved our relationship tremendously. Being able to recognize this behavior has also helped me heal from most of
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
It sounds to me like the only thing holding her back is the power she gives to the bishop/church and the belief that she should not be enjoying what she is doing. If it was me(and it was) I would lay off the sex, and work on being close to her without sex, lots of massaging and touching and holding without the sex obligation at the end. I know it will be a while before she feels that way, but
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
1. My wife decided it would be stupid to leave 2. I am finally free 3. My kids 4. My mental health
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7 years ago
icanseethelight
7 years ago
icanseethelight
After reading about the advantages of signing up for an account I did so. It is a much improved experience!
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