Service by assignment became a big thing in my last two wards 5 years ago, right before I quit. We were assigned to clean one weekend. Too bad for them, we were moving into a different house. We tried telling the coordinator to find someone else. He turned it back on us to cover our assignment. We never did anything about it. A few weeks later, we finally remembered to give back the key. The
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A decade ago I attended the Provo campus. The usual 3 hour block wiped out a portion of the day. If you had leadership callings, you had correlation meetings, presidency meetings, etc. Choir practice took another hour. I was always starved and exhausted after church, so a quick lunch and long nap took the afternoon. Visiting teachers came, or I went visiting my assignments. Usually, our apart
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The branch met at that old stake center you described near West Town Mall. My parents were in the same building in the mid 70's. I took my turn in the mid 2000's. I believe some of those families had seen the rise and fall of the church in their area before Farragut and some of the other wealthier wards grew. My time there was brief. I can't think of the names of the families right now. I alwa
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Randyj-- I was in the South Knox branch, with an old Bear Bryant Alabama fan - President Parker. He was nice, had been my parents' bishop when my dad attended UT. We were a tiny unit, somewhat outcast when a ward split. My calling in the primary presidency was planned for me before I ever even moved in, as I didn't move there until I was married. It was clearly not inspired and was issued
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Today will be crazy in Knoxville! The University of Tennessee Volunteers had a beautiful win against Georgia. Football is the religion in Knoxville at this time of year. :) It is a smallish city with a nice vibe. I was TBM when I lived there briefly over a decade ago. I was in a branch with the same worn-out, reused, and recycled members that had always been there. I was glad to move out of su
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It's not just Utah. I made the mistake of shopping in an actual book store, Books a Million, recently. Checking out was a pain. My cashier and another cashier quizzed me about how often I shop there, do I have the membership card, do I want the membership card, why don't I want a membership card, here's why I ought to have a membership card, do I want to donate money or a book for a local school,
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The ballroom dance program drew 2 nevermos from my small high school in the deep south. I transferred there later and never ran into them. They both stayed nevermos. :)
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I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for SLC to do something. As for saving what can be of their homes, many residents are already tearing out the drywall and removing damaged materials. I am watching a bit on the sidelines, though I hope to spend some of my weekend over there. If I see any sign of headquarters involvement, I'll update this post. Most likely, there will be a humanitarian aide do
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posted on the DS STAKE FB wall- Those in the Denham Springs Stake please understand that we care, love and pray with you as these flood waters recede. I need everyone to remain calm and maintain integrity and patience. We are working with local, area, and Salt Lake leadership to provide support as quickly as possible. Help is on the way! There will be work crews working from the Zachary
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Your wife's reaction after F&T meeting reminds me of my behavior. As a young mom in the church, I beat myself up constantly for not being worthy enough. I didn't read enough, I didn't pray enough. I wasn't actively doing my visiting teaching. I must have been a horrible person! I would have breakdowns and cry heavily every few weeks. Then I would work harder, then slack off again, then feel
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Here's a side story. I had a non-lds roommate during college. I attended church activities on Sundays, so-called Family Home Evenings on Mondays, Institute (scripture study) on Thursdays, and various other activities on the weekends. (Yes, the church can keep you very, very busy with meetings and activities. After a while, you realize all the lessons are repetitive and you don't learn anything ne
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Another red flag is that you admit you're emotionally distraught over the missionary visits and their expectations of you. You have cried more than usual. Why continue to invite this stress in your life? I was raised in the church. As a young married mom, I was constantly feeling overwhelmed. Sure, young moms may be more emotional anyway. But every week at church I was reminded about how inad
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I worry that a TBM sibling lives in a state of fear. Before I came out as a disbeliever, she would always ask me if I thought certain events at the time were signs of the times. Both of our Patriarchal Blessings suggests the 2nd coming would occur while we were raising our kids. She took hers seriously. She's got a crew of 6 kids now. No millienium of peace is in sight. Hopefully, she won't keep
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Thank you all again for the thoughtful responses. I have several avenues to explore to help my son develop his interests. I say intelligent, relative to his schoolmates. He has lazy tendencies to overcome. :) He seems to be learning that his hard work this year has helped him achieve higher grades and an improved understanding of class material. He thoroughly enjoys history and literature, but
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Siobahn...we're probably close to each other! I have a great view of the coast! ;)
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Thanks for all of your comments! Yes, it can be hard watching your kids suffer through personal tough times. We're looking forward to band opening up as an option in the next year or two. He participates in his school's gifted program. That experience has been fun for him. He tends to feel down about the day to day classroom vibe. I can meet with his teacher and see if she's aware of any other is
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I agree with what you said. I think relying on the church for my esteem actually delayed my ability to look at myself as good enough as I was. But at the time, I just remember repeatedly reading my Patriarchal blessing, looking for clues about my potential. The church promised a lot of potential to me as a youth. Once I was married with kids, I realized I was completely stumped in my perceive
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He actually doesn't have a school full of friends. That's the dilemma! Lol. How to survive a friendless life in school?
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I am looking for a bit of advice for those of you who have raised young children outside of Mormonism, or any religion. My oldest child is a 4th grader. He is a good kid. He’s always done fine in school, but this year he seems to have more self-awareness that he is intelligent and doesn't quite fit in. My son attends a good public school, relative to our southern state. However, he happens t
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Getting my family ready and having lessons ready was always hectic. We were always running in right at 9, or at least during announcements. That drove my always-early-for-everything-else DH crazy. He learned to keep it to himself, though, since I was already stressing! When we dropped TSCC, we still attempted to attend a traditional church that met at 8:30 am. Remarkably, the mornings were pe
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I was a dedicated member. Once my eyes were opened, I quickly realized that I couldn't stay in church. First, I called in "sick" or "out of town" for a few Sundays. Then I just didn't bother. It was weird to just quit. Part of me was amused feeling like one of "those inactives." It felt good to stop giving away my time, especially because I ducked out before the prim
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My DH played his exit slowly. He attended church with me every week. An uncooperative baby that hated nursery was his escape from priesthood. He'd sit in the car with the baby and read rfm. Lol He dropped tidbits every now and then about what a jerk Brigham Young was. In a visit with my parents, DH made it clear that he had serious doubts about the church. It was the most obvious he had been.
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All too clear! Maybe another policy change can fix that!? Lol
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So tired of the nonexistent parallels that TSCC tries to make between polygamy and same sex marriage. Christofferson and company seem to have forgotten that their corporation had a role in the polygamist groups' existence at all. On another note, what about children of an excommunicated parent? These kids have to endure weekly lessons about eternal families at church. They can feel hurt, is
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+1000!
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Usually, DH was asleep! I always felt anxious watching him to see if he'd stand up on time. He would, but lots of stretching and yawning was involved. Lol
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I think God was just doing the survivors a favor. This way all the vacancies can be filled in a couple of weeks. What a jerk God would be to wait until just after conference to "relieve" another of his servants from this earthly life.
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Beautiful!
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