The lumberjack who lives behind me had a yard full of tall pine trees when we moved in 11 years ago. Since then he's removed about 20 of them, thereby taking away the shade in our yard. I had landscaped according to the amount of shade we got. My landscaping died. He said he wanted to grow grass. I told him if he wanted grass he shouldn't have bought property in a forested area! Actions h
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I lost my son 11 years ago due to a car accident. He was 22 years old. It took me nearly two years to start to feel "normal". The first few months I cried every day. I walked the floors at night, unable to sleep. My mind would not shut down and I thought about him every second of every day. What your friend is experiencing is very normal. She is going through the grief process
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I live in Houston and work at one of those big box garden centers. The single worst thing I have to deal with is the extreme heat and humidity. The second is rude customers. Most of them are fine, but the ones who scream, yell and curse at me? I just walk away.
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Me, too. The hubby and I took a day off today and went down to the Gulf Coast (Gulf of Mexico), drove down the beach a few miles and hung out all afternoon. We had the place completely to ourselves and it was quite lovely. I really needed to disconnect time from every day life. We also like to go tent camping in the woods. No electricity, phones or internet. Just the woods, friends, fire
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I live about 10 miles west of Spring, but I used to live there. It was a nice place about 15 years ago but now it's getting kind of run down. Don't know anything about the morg meetings there. The traffic is horrible on the rare occasion I have to drive through the place. You might consider living in one of the areas surrounding Spring.
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Why not just start a new FB page with a different name? You could use some sort of nickname and use a different email account to set it up. Solves all sorts of problems.
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A hug is just a hug. Nothing more, nothing less. I hug just about everybody, but only if the other person is open to it. In my circle of friends, most of us are huggers and the friends/partners/lovers they bring to our get togethers are usually huggers, too. So it often happens that I hug somebody when I first meet him or her. Don't think too much about it.
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I'm totally with you on that, shortbobgirl! Every holiday has become so commercialized that we hardly remember why we have them anymore, other than an excuse for mass consumerism. I guess we're doing our "patriotic duty" by purchasing more and more stuff to keep the economy going? Wish I could have had some time to go to the cemetery. I was just too darn tired to do it. Maybe I'll
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Thinking about my son who is buried in Houston National Cemetery as I go to work and try to please the crowds out shopping for the best possible deal they can get. I hope you take time out to remember those who gave their lives for this country because that is, after all, the reason for this "holiday".
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I live in Houston, too. I love it, other than the traffic, which I don't have to deal with a whole lot because I'm in the burbs and don't have to get on the freeways often. I love the trees and how everything is just so alive here! and the winters are usually pretty mild (not counting this last one).
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Grandma was as TBM as one can get and she was a hoarder. The oldest of 13 children, a single mother of 5 in the 50's and 60's because Grandpa left her for another woman. She had a good job and was able to take care of herself after the kids started leaving the house, but still couldn't bring herself to waste anything. It wasn't too bad when I was younger and would spend a week or two with
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I don't know what it's like now, I haven't been to a temple in decades. But back in 1980 the only jewelry one could wear was her own personal wedding and engagement rings. Or at least, that's what I was told then. and, since I didn't have anybody else there with me that I could ask to hold the rings for me, I just put them in my locker. I'll never be un-mad over that.
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You can't even trust them in the temple. When I got sealed there I was told I couldn't wear the wedding rings my mother had given me that my father had given her and that she'd saved for me for 18 years. I'd long looked forward to having them and wanted to wear them that day to feel that I had my parents with me. Alas, I was told by the temple matron that I couldn't wear them. So, I went back
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I don't think even research has been done to determine whether or not the ecigs and/or vaping is good or bad for our bodies. However, from my own personal experience, it HAS been good for me. I smoked for 20 years and tried everything under the sun to quit -- nicotine gum, pills, patches, you name it. Not a single thing worked. Vaping has helped and I have not had a cigarette since Septembe
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My former so-called TBM husband was a liar, a cheat and a pedophile but he had the ability to convince others he was a really good person. My current husband is a nevermo and simply one of the most honest, caring and nurting person I've ever met who encourages me to be the best I can be. You don't have to have religion to be a good person.
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I raised a daughter who is lesbian. I can tell you that she was born this way and I knew when she was very young. It did not influence how I raised her. This is a huge sticking pile of crap. I really wish people would quit trying to figure out reasons people are gay. They just are. End of story.
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I am so sorry for your loss. Having been through the grief process when my only son died ten years ago in a car accident, I can tell you that it will eventually not hurt quite so much all the time. Cry when you need to. Drink lots of water. Talk about your brother to anyone who will listen. Breathe. Take one day and even one minute at a time until you can deal with your grief a litt
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My son died in a car accident a few years before FB and other social media were available but we did have email and Yahoo groups. Close friends and family got phone calls. Everyone else was included in an email and Yahoo support groups in the early hours of learning of his death. It was a good way to get the word of his passing out and to communicate privately without having to field a whole l
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Is your wife TBM? At any rate, at this point you're just going to have to totally keep your word 100% of the time to maintain some level of trust. If you say you're not going to drink, then don't drink. Not even a sip. Period. If you can't keep your word, then don't make the agreement. If you want to drink, don't hide it and don't agree not to. LDS women are bred to be insecure with any
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Why on earth is a therapist worried about a client "sinning"? Isn't par tof the point of going to a therapist to help one learn to cope and feel better? Telling a client he/she is sinning cannot be helpful.
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Seems to be quite a few of us from that area! I was born there and left when I was 14 in 1976. Still have lots of family in Burley but I hardly ever make it back to visit. None of them are mo, thank goodness.
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There are thieves in the temple and I wish I'd used a lock on my locker. When I went through the SLC Temple in 1980 the matron wouldn't let me wear any jewelry -- including the wedding rings my mother had given me that were from when she and my father were married. I had to leave them in my locker and they somehow magically disappeared. Go figure.
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Thank you, Tal! Throw back a shot of whiskey, turn up the volume and rock out!
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I'm not too far away from there, between 290 and 249. It's a nice place to live.
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After the birth of my third baby I told my doctor I wanted my tubes tied. He was a very active TBM and told me I needed to ask my husband's permission. I just looked at him and told him that after having a husband who cheated on me during every pregnancy, I certainly did NOT need his permission and if he wouldn't do it, I'd find somebody who would. He did the procedure. I later ended up hav
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I just saw a preview for the story on the CBS Evening News before they cut away to a commercial. How cruel must a person be to give a child food and then take it away and not let him/her eat it?
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If this is a one time thing, then do not tell your wife and do not tell the bishop. You will only hurt your wife tremendously. The bishop is in no way, shape or form trained to help you. He is NOT trained clergy, unlike clergy in other religions. He will blab to his wife who will gossip with anybody who will listen and plenty of people will listen. Forgive yourself for being human and
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Freckles, I'm so glad your daughter is okay! How is she doing emotionally/mentally with this? My oldest granddaughter works at that mall and had been called in to work early. Fortunately, she had not arrived at work yet but her parents didn't know that when they got word of the shooting and were pretty freaked out. My granddaughter is feeling pretty shaky and does not want to go back to wor
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"1) First, it fundamentally reorients the institution of marriage away from the needs of children toward the desires of adults. It no longer makes marriage about ensuring the type of family life that is ideal for kids; it makes it more about adult romance. If one of the biggest social problems we face right now in the United States is absentee dads, how will we insist that fathers are essent
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with having lunch or coffee with someone of the opposite sex. My husband and I both do from time to time, whether it's coworkers or friends outside of work. We both know the boundaries of what is/is not acceptable as defined by both of us in our relationship. The truth is, both of us make friends easier with those of the opposite sex. My question to you i
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